As parents, we often observe our children forming deep bonds with seemingly mundane objects, particularly blankets.
These items, often referred to as "security blankets," become constant companions to our little ones, providing comfort in a new and unpredictable world.
But why do children get attached to blankets, and what does this attachment signify?
Understanding Children's Attachment to Security Blankets
Security blankets serve as transitional objects, helping children navigate daily big emotions and changes.
Transitional objects, such as a favourite blanket, plush toy, or pacifier, can provide comfort and stability during times of change or stress when a parent or caregiver is not present.
The term “transitional objects” was coined by Donald W. Winnicott, a pediatrician and psychoanalyst.
According to Winnicott's theory, the transitional object is the first "not me" object that a child encounters.
Initially, infants are unable to distinguish between themselves and others. As they begin to comprehend that they are distinct from their primary caregiver, this may cause them some level of distress or anxiety.
The transitional object helps alleviate this realisation and transition by acting as an extension of their caregiver, reminding them of the love, warmth, and care provided by their caregiver and enabling them to learn to self-soothe.
Safety Considerations
While blankets offer comfort, it's crucial to ensure safe sleeping practices. Babies should not sleep with blankets, pillows, or stuffed animals in the crib until they reach their first birthday to prevent risks associated with SIDS and other sleeping hazards.
Ensure that these comfort objects are safe for children to use. They should be made of non-toxic materials and be free of small parts that could pose a choking hazard.
Regular washing is necessary to keep them clean and hygienic. Consider having duplicates to avoid distress if the original is lost or needs cleaning.
Should You Take Away a Security Blanket?
Worrying if your child seems overly attached to their blanket is natural. However, this attachment is a normal part of development and typically fades as children grow older.
Deciding whether to take away a child's security blanket is a nuanced decision that requires consideration of the child's emotional needs and developmental stage.
Experts suggest that these objects should not be abruptly taken away, as this can cause anxiety.
They recommend a gradual approach, in which the object becomes less available over time, particularly during less stressful periods, to encourage independence without causing distress.
The goal is to support the child's development and emotional well-being rather than adhering to a strict timeline for giving up the security blanket.
Each child is unique, and so too should the approach to managing their attachment to transitional objects.
Fostering Independence
While respecting your child's attachment is important, it's equally important to foster independence.
Here are some tips for encouraging them to be more independent from their comfort objects.
Choose a time when your child is most receptive and not undergoing other significant changes, such as starting school or moving homes.
Use gentle encouragement if the attachment interferes with daily activities or social interactions. Offer alternative forms of comfort to help ease the transition away from the security object.
Encourage your child to leave their blanket behind during short trips or activities where they'll be engaged and distracted. Gradually, they'll learn that they can feel secure even without their fuzzy friend.
Start by limiting the blanket's presence to certain times of the day, like during naps or bedtime. This helps your child get used to not having it around all the time.
Praise your child for their bravery and maturity in taking this step. Small rewards or a sticker chart can motivate them to keep going.
Understand that this process takes time. Be patient and allow your child to move at their own pace towards feeling comfortable without their blanket.
Embracing the Comfort: From Security Blankets to Self-Reliance
The attachment children form with their blankets is a natural and healthy part of growing up. It reflects their need for consistency and comfort in a rapidly changing environment.
As parents, our role is to provide love and support, understanding that the security blanket is an extension of our comfort.
With time and patience, children will naturally outgrow their need for these objects, bringing the
